22 Lessons Learned:

Tips on How to Stop Being Hard on Yourself

It is normal to forget about the successes and remembering every little mistake you have ever made. It is not important for us to live with mistakes we did in the past because this might cause depression and other problems. In this article, I am going to speak about ways on how you can stop being so hard on yourself. Making a mistake is one of the valuable parts of learning. Mistakes are done by everyone, and because of that, you should not see it like you are the first one. In many cases, mistakes happen when you mess up something or when you do not know how to do something. What you take away from the mistake is the essential thing.

When we make mistakes, we learn how to do things so that we may not repeat the mistakes. The valuable knowledge you gain when you make mistakes is when you learn to do things right. The experiences should be remembered rather than dwelling on mistakes. You will avoid repeating the same mistake next time when you do that. If you would like to stop being so hard on yourself you should not compare yourself with other people. When you use other people as a comparison to your life, you will never stop being hard on yourself. You do not know what they go through or the mistakes that have done in the past for them to be where they are today and because of that, you should not compare yourself with other people. Some even have invested for a longer time for them to be successful which is why you should not compare yourself with them.

Instead of comparing the goals of other people, you should set targets s that you may achieve your goals. Your past should not be your identity because everybody changes. If you are learning and growing, you are not the same person you were last month. You should not base your identity on someone you used to be because of that reason. You are not defined by the mistakes you made in the past. You will always see a way to correct them even if some of those mistakes were repeated.

Being objective about your thoughts and feelings is the thing you should do to stop being hard on yourself. Looking at your thoughts and emotions objectively is not an easy thing. You should ask yourself if you would say those things to another person when you are hard on yourself. If those things cannot be said to them, that’s a good sign of not being hard on yourself.